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KEY TO FREEDOM | are you in the driver's seat of your life + 5 steps to create more freedom

Recognize this: when you are upset, sad, or angry, or life isn't going your way, you blame others or circumstances?

Your first reaction will probably be NO, but let's give it another thought.

Your spouse leaves the toilet seat up again. You get frustrated and annoyed. That you feel that way is your partner's fault, not yours, right? Or is your manager or director too demanding and responsible for making your life miserable from time to time?

Or someone you know is being rude, you feel upset about it, and you blame that person for your feelings?

Or a big one...

You are currently financially struggling because of inflation and an upcoming economic depression, or better said, because of one man Poetin?

This is what we call being a backseat driver of your life.

In this blog post of today

A deep-dive into how you can get into the driver's seat + 5 steps to create more freedom in on one of the 5 levels of your life - the mind.

A little taste of our Mentor Program

So strong confession: we have been backseat drivers for quite a long time, and sometimes we still climb back into that seat.

Is that a problem?

No, IF.... you realize it.... are aware of it at the moment, and...know how to get back in the driver's seat again.

Would we want to be always in the driver's seat and, instead of blaming or ignoring, take action and decide the course of our lives ourselves?

Hell yeah, but hé we are only human 😎

The best part, the more you are aware of what your triggers are and how to get into the driver's seat again, the easier it will get.......and the shorter your stay in the miserable backseat will be.

Because let's be honest, we all want to be front-row seaters in our own lives, the ones that decide how things will affect our lives, right?

So if we talk about being a backseat driver, then we mean that we are

  1. not taking full responsibility and

  2. accountability over our lives.

We blame others or circumstances. In essence, this means that we are in a state of mind where people or events outside our sphere of influence decide the quality of our life.

In this state of mind, your happiness is at the mercy of others and circumstances.

YES, we are talking about taking on a victim role.

In these moments that we are suffering, we can do 3 things:

  • ignore and blame (victim role, a.k.a. backseat driver)

  • change circumstances (driver's seat of a tango, most likely you will end up in the same situation again), or

  • change our blueprint (driver's seat of a formula 1 car, this is what we establish with you in our Mentor Program)

With the first, your life will not change.

The second, you change your circumstances. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the road, but chances are high that you will end up in the same situation somewhere down the road again.

With the last one, you change how you have programmed yourself to think, act and behave. You take control of your life and step into the driver's seat. You change your mindset, limiting beliefs and disempowering habits. Which ultimately changes your reality, circumstances, and quality of life.

We do this with you in our Mentor Program (we take a deep dive into modules 1, 2, and 3).

I hear you thinking:

Well, that sounds great, but how does that work in practice, Rianne?

Let's take the example of financial struggle because of inflation and economic depression.

Suppose inflation and an upcoming economic depression are why you are financially struggling. In that case, you can never resolve it as you have to wait until the inflation is reversed and the financial depression is over.

You do not take responsibility for your life.

When you do take control, you know that you are the one that is responsible for financial struggles and can resolve this.

You probably need to work on several limiting beliefs like:

  • in a financial depression, it is hard to make extra money

  • people will not spend their money on my services or products

  • the only thing I can do is save on costs and hope the government will come with support measurements

  • I'm not capable of creating extra sources of income and don't have an entrepreneurial mind

  • in these circumstances, no one can do anything about it, so I have to survive


  • there are always ways to earn and save money

  • I'm creative and capable of finding new ways of income no matter what

  • I'm smart with money and can ignite my entrepreneurial spirit

And create empowering habits like:

  • change your mindset from scarcity to abundance

  • train yourself to always focus on the possibilities instead of the obstacles and problems

  • end the habit of thinking and expecting governments and institutions to come to the rescue and know that you can create financial freedom in all seasons of life

  • educate yourself on finances and historical patterns in financially challenging times by dedicating at least 30 min a day to a podcast, youtube video, or book.

By doing this, you take control and acknowledge that you are in the driver's seat of your life and that you can and will be resourceful and creative. Within our Mentor Program we will give you the tools, inspiration and kick in the but to create empowering habits and breakthrough limiting beliefs (at least 1-3 every month). Having doubts? Join our free online event this month, where we deliver you 1 insight, breakthrough, and transformation within just 3 days......yes, just 3 days. Imagine what we can do together in 6 months. Join here.

Side note 😎 Within our Mentor Program, we launched a pilot membership: ignite your entrepreneurial spirit, 6 months full of inspiration, challenges, and motivation to create several sources of income and find and further develop your entrepreneurial mind.

So the question remains, are you a backseat driver? If yes, join our Mentor Program today with an early bird discount of € 200 ex VAT.

To inspire you a bit more, below, we have summed up 5 steps that will tremendously impact your blueprint and overall happiness.

Have a great day,

with love,

Rianne & Gerben

1. Take accountability

'Circumstances don't matter, state of being matters.'

We first learned this principle 15 years ago in a book by Stephen Covey - 7 habits of highly effective people. Then we read a lot about Victor Frankl when we went through the bankruptcy of Gerben's company 5 years ago.

At that moment, we truly understood the meaning of this principle.

You can be in an excellent state of mind no matter what happens, even if you are locked up in a concentration camp during WOII (Victor Frankl).

It is about taking full responsibility for how you feel. It is about realizing that we all have this unbounded freedom. The freedom to choose how things will affect our lives and our state of being. The split second of freedom between when we notice the circumstances and the moment we give meaning to it.

The moment we can choose to find meaning and purpose in any given situation.

I didn't practice this principle when I was a lawyer. I felt in those times extremely miserable, and this was not only because I hated the job. One of my employers was a real a*hole. The male version of Miranda Priestly in The Devil Wears Prada. So I blamed him for me feeling miserable.

Well, there, I took a wrong turn.

The only one responsible for my misery back then or now was me.

Even though my employer was a pain in the ass and rude, I was the one that let his behavior influence my state of mind and self-image, nobody else.

The first step to reaching freedom of mind (one of the 5 levels towards freedom) is becoming emotionally independent by taking accountability.

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2. Be honest and reflect

Our surroundings are a reflection of our state of mind.

Be brutally honest towards yourself. If you see yourself in a situation you don't like: finances, love, family, career, business, you name it - accept that most likely you are the one that created it.

Take time to be aware of your state of mind, reflect on your thoughts and feelings, and become conscious of what kind of meaning you give to your emotions and feelings.

Are there certain disempowering habits or limiting beliefs running your life?

For example, you are not good enough, or you feel guilty, or you have this habit of making excuses so you do not disappoint, or you choose for security because of your fear of the unknown or are you focused too much on not having enough money and wanting to be financially independent that you are achieving the opposite, or are you afraid of the possible negative consequences of a decision that prevents you from taking action for weeks or even months?

And we all have them!

So I know you have them too.

The only difference is that most people aren't aware of them and, therefore, will never establish change.

Consciousness is the first step toward transformation and change.

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3. Desire & take action

Create the desire to change your ways of thinking so you can become emotionally independent.

You need to have a desire for change to reach the transformation. This means you have to create leverage. Doing it has to be so much more attractive than not doing it.

And most of the time, people don't lack motivation but clarity. Clarity about why, the what, and the consequences, the good and the bad.

Ultimately the difference between getting unstuck versus creating change and reaching a transformation is taking action.

Without clarity, your chances drop significantly that you will take any action.

Good luck favors those who take action.

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4. Find the meaning

After realizing that you are in control and have this unbelievable amount of freedom, one of the most empowering things is profoundly understanding the principle that it is our job to find the meaning and the lesson in every challenge and setback.

If you can do that, to train yourself to always look for the meaning and lesson, you will see a massive increase in your overall happiness feelings - no matter the circumstances.

Any obstacle, challenge, or setback becomes something of meaning, a lesson, and ultimately a gift.

Even the most horrible ones, you can give them meaning by, for example

  • Sharing your process of healing with others to be of support to those who are going through something similar, or

  • Educating others with your experiences and knowledge you gained by going through a challenging time in your life, or

  • The simple fact that a horrible situation made you emotionally stronger or more connected with your loved ones or brought you newfound friends.

5. Keep your frequency high

How do you raise the frequency of your state of being?

We can't say this enough, and you probably hear it everywhere, but it does work: gratitude.

Gratitude and love are two of the highest-frequency emotions we can experience, and science shows that if you are thinking about the things you are grateful for, your mind can't think of anything else - so also not the bad ones!

So practicing gratitude in little moments during the day, before going to bed, and in the morning right after you wake up are game-changers!

And don't get too much stuck in your head or overthink it.

Gratitude is about the little things as simple as a butterfly flying by or a delicious meal, a smile of a stranger, a hug of a friend, or the giggles of your little one....

If this resonated with you in any way, I know that our Mentor Program will be a great fit. In the first two modules, we take a deep dive into your blueprint and how you programmed yourself (changing your neurological paths for the better).

Join today and get a discount of € 200,- (only valid until the 26th of October).

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